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Here are some signs that might indicate that you are dating a psychopath. You might get mad at people for trying to convince you to break up with your partner, or make excuses for your partner because you are convinced that you are the only one that understands him or her. He or she feels entitled to act the way that they do. You might try to talk about how you are feeling–your partner turns everything around and tries to talk about everything you’re doing wrong. Even when they hurt you, they make you feel bad for the pain it has caused them. They often don’t actually feel guilty about what they have done, only that they were caught. Other people might warn you about dating your partner–if they have a track record of abuse, most likely it is only a matter of time until they abuse you. Your friends and family wish that you would break up. One day, he is caring and loving and wonderful, and the next he is hateful and raging and mean. You are afraid to talk, or when you do talk you feel like you are never heard, your words are taken out of context, misunderstood, or blatantly ignored. In the beginning of a relationship they might seem like everything you ever wanted….usually this is because they are trying to act like everything you ever wanted. You have no support group and therefore your partner gains more power. He or she might be mean to people they think are “below them” or people who are defenseless, like babies or children. Like flipping a switch, he can change drastically from one extreme to the next. He or she acts one way when they are around you, but completely different around your parents, and completely different around their friends. Slowly, you lose your friends until you feel like your partner is the only person you have left. Your partner cycles from mean and vicious to sweet and loving, then back again. He might set traps for squirrels or rabbits and then torture them. Something that regularly comes up in conversation is single parents’ concern over who their children are coming into contact with when they are not there. Statistics also tell us 95% of sexually abused children will know their perpetrator (I am not a single parent but many of my friends are. Children who live with a single parent that has a live-in partner are at the highest risk of sexual abuse: they are 20 times more likely to be victims of sexual abuse than children living with both biological parents (As the writer of the children’s book on safe and unsafe touch ‘Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’ as an advocate for Body Safety education both in the home and in schools, I hear many worrying and frankly very tragic stories from parents whose children have been sexually abused and adult survivors who were sexually abused as young children.
They might bring up personal issues at inappropriate times. If you work hard to fix one thing, they will find something else that is wrong. They always have an excuse or a story or someone to blame: someone caused them to act the way that they did.Hugging, "playing," rubbing, lap-sitting, and any other physical contact might be considered abusive.Remember, sexual abuse need not involve touch at all—a child can be sexually abused with words only, for example, or with a camera.There are thousands of innocent children being violated every day.The majority of them are being wrongfully touched right at home by a family member or a friend of the family.